The most important gift we can give our children is faith. When my grandmother was dying many years ago, she suffered. She was diagnosed with stomach cancer, and she fought, but it was a fight she would not win. She did not complain. She did not lament her last days. She waited patiently for God. She rested when she was tired, she laughed when she had the energy, and she waited. The feeling that came when we lost her was certainly one of sadness, but from the perspective of her grandchild, it was also one of peace. She gave this to us by dying in faith, and she laid the foundation for her death by living in faith. She taught this faith to all around her. And then my parents taught this faith to me. I want to do the same for our family. There can be no greater gift than this.
We need to live faithfully; we need to truly believe in this faith. We need to do everything in our power to understand and, even when understanding fails, to believe that we are living for God. We are living as a reflection of God, and we are called to serve him until we are invited to join him. Faith is everything. Faith will allow us to greet death rather than fear it. Faith will allow us to leave this world peacefully. Faith will allow us to watch others leave truly knowing that it is not the last time we will be with them; in fact this has been our shortest time with them. This is what I want to teach my children.
I am grieving a daughter whom I truly believe is now being loved better than she ever was while here with us. Not because we didn’t love her enough; we loved her as completely and fully as humanly possible – but that’s just it, we loved her humanly. God loves her in a different, better way – a way we cannot even begin to understand. I believe in faith, and I am so thankful Bethie is with this God.